My sister and I had a turbulent relationship growing up. Whenever we played and fight, she would complain to our mother and I'll get a scolding. So, at 14 years old, I decided that I will never talk to my sister again.  

I still remember one of the biggest fights I had with my sister. I was just very, very angry. It wasn't anything big that we were fighting about, but I got angry. She rebutted me, and I got angrier. It just got worse and worse. And when I look back, I probably have 10 years' worth of apologies to say to my sister. 

My sister is a photographer and last year, she decided to take me and my fiancée out for a photo shoot at a skate park. She had a suitcase full of lenses and cameras - her hands were also full with equipment and she was struggling so much to manage all that was on hand. 

And I thought to myself, "How can I be a gentleman to my friends or my fiancée, and even my mother, but not to my sister?"

For me, it was a very big realisation of how I differentiated the way I treated people. And after that, I couldn't help but just blurted, "Kit, I'm sorry for all these years that I didn’t treat you well." 

That was a very big moment. 

There is a wise Chinese proverb that says, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Even at the 400th step, we need to remind one another, that the goal is a thousand miles. Like, it's still a long way.  

Today, while my relationship with my sister is still not perfect, I feel like if I keep on working on it, it's gonna keep on getting better.